Is Complementarianism merely personal conviction?
Aug 14th, 2008 by Cheryl Schatz
This post is a response to Randy Stinson’s article titled “Is Complementarianism a Merely Personal Conviction?“
In Randy Stinson’s article it appears that there is a lot of fear that comes through even to the point of suggesting that if one is an egalitarian they will be affected negatively for their entire life, even to the extent that they may not remain in the Christian faith. I would like to unpack some of the key points of Randy Stinson’s article to look at the underlying message to see how it brings a divisiveness into the body of Christ. Mr. Stinson gives a very telling statement at the beginning of this article:
I believe it is possible for someone to be wrong on the gender issue, but still be a believer. So being an egalitarian does not mean you are not a Christian, but it does cripple the discipleship process for that person for the rest of their life. [emphasis is mine]
I personally do not ever recall reading egalitarian Christians questioning the salvation of their complementarian brothers. Rather than dividing from their brothers, egalitarians generally start with the thought that these are our brothers in Christ and the debate is only on the secondary issues of faith. However complementarians are more and more being pushed towards questioning the salvation of egalitarians. Note Mr. Stinson doesn’t say that egalitarians who are evangelicals are our brothers and sisters in Christ but rather he says that it is “possible” for egalitarians to be believers. He then makes a very bold statement that egalitarians are crippled in their walk with the Lord. His use of this word picture is designed to draw the conclusion that the egalitarian viewpoint is a disease that one can survive but with great damage to our faith. Mr. Stinson then goes on to draw a line in the sand with assumptions that are not only unproven but which are extremely divisive. He lists six points that he says are key areas of Christian theology and practice that are apparently crippled by the egalitarian belief:
1. The authority of scripture is at stake.
Mr. Stinson greatly overstates his case in this point and draws the reader to the conclusion that egalitarians do not hold to the authority of God’s word. While he says that the Bible “clearly” teaches that men and women have distinct and complementary roles in the home and the church he does not mention the fact that a growing number of evangelical Christians who strongly hold to the authority of scripture read the hard passages of scripture in their context and see something that is not so “clear” at all that there are differing spiritual roles for men and women. These same Christians hold tightly to the authority of the scripture and they do not teach people to disregard God’s word but rather they teach that we should all read the hard passages in their complete context because God’s word must not be interpreted in a way that causes one scripture to contradict another.
2. The health of the home is at stake.
Here Mr. Stinson equates the foundation of the home as one person - the husband, whereas scripture reveals that the one-flesh union of husband and wife brings a unity of authority to both mother and father. (Deut. 21:18-20; Leviticus 19:3 where Mother is even placed before Father; and Ephesians 6:1, 2)
Mr. Stinson also says the egalitarian view is disobedience and “they will not have the proper foundation upon which to withstand the temptations of the devil”. Where is such a thing listed in scripture? There is no scriptural reference for Mr. Stinson’s claim. However there is an example of a wife going against her husband and taking her individual authority to pursue peace with King David whose servants had been insulted by her husband. The story is found in 1 Samuel chapter 25 and Abigail is said to be intelligent (1 Samuel 25:3) and one who had discernment (1 Samuel 25:33). She took authority over a matter and did not tell her husband who is described as a fool, a character trait that matches his name. Her wise action which was done in direct conflict with her husband’s foolish decision actually saved her family.
This hinders the sanctification of married couple…
Where is this found in scripture? The only “sanctification” that is found in scripture regarding married couples is in 1 Corinthians 7:14 regarding an unbelieving mate.
1 Corinthians 7:14 For the unbelieving husband is sanctified through his wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified through her believing husband; for otherwise your children are unclean, but now they are holy.
Notice here that scripture lists first of all that an “unbelieving husband” is sanctified through his wife. Paul also says that an “unbelieving wife” is sanctified through her believing husband and the purpose is for the benefit of the children. Sanctification in the marriage is not listed in scripture as coming through a husband as if he was a leader of a subordinate person (the wife) but rather sanctification in marriage comes through a believing spouse whether a wife or a husband. Every other reference to sanctification is personal and has nothing to do with marriage. Mr. Stinson is very wrong in equating the sanctification of the marriage as having anything to do with complementarian belief and practice.
and also introduces confusion about basic parenting issues such as raising masculine sons and feminine daughters.
Mr. Stinson as well as his organization called CBMW (The Council on Biblical Manhood and Womanhood) makes much of teaching about spiritual masculinity and spiritual femininity yet the bible teaches nothing about the spiritual way to raise masculine sons or feminine daughters. Christianity is not about following Jesus in a feminine way or a masculine way. All of us are to follow Jesus in the same spiritual way. We are all to be humble and to practice submission as Jesus did. The teaching that there is a feminine way regarding spirituality and a masculine way to spirituality is foreign to the scriptures.
3. The health of the church is at stake.
Just like the home, if the church disobeys the teaching of 1Timothy 2, 1 Corinthians 11 and disregards the structure that God put into place for the community of faith from the beginning, then the church will be weakened. If the church is weakened in its convictions, it will be less effective in accomplishing its mission.
Here Mr. Stinson implies that 1 Corinthians 11 and 1 Timothy 2 are a “structure” that God put into place for the community of faith. Where is this “structure”? 1 Timothy 2 has no hierarchical structure listed. In 1 Corinthians 11 the inspired “order” of 1 Cor. 11:3 is not an ordered list of hierarchy nor does the rest of the passage list any authority of the man over the woman. Rather 1 Cor. 11:11 shows that the male does not operate independently of the female nor the female independent of the male (no hierarchy here at all). In fact verse 12 shows that first in creation did not bring preeminence just as the fact that the man now comes through the woman show that she is now preeminate. The preeminence is solely in God himself.
Mr. Stinson also does not show how the egalitarian view of scripture weakens the church of its convictions in the essentials areas of faith or how the church is less effective in its mission of evangelization and discipleship.
4. Our worship is at stake.
Here Mr. Stinson makes a point that God “named Himself” father. God did not “name” Himself Father. His name is “I AM”
Exodus 3:13 Then Moses said to God, “Behold, I am going to the sons of Israel, and I will say to them, ‘The God of your fathers has sent me to you.’ Now they may say to me, ‘What is His name?’ What shall I say to them?”
Exodus 3:14 God said to Moses, “I AM WHO I AM”; and He said, “Thus you shall say to the sons of Israel, ‘I AM has sent me to you.’”
Exodus 3:15 God, furthermore, said to Moses, “Thus you shall say to the sons of Israel, ‘The LORD, the God of your fathers, the God of Abraham, the God of Isaac, and the God of Jacob, has sent me to you.’ This is My name forever, and this is My memorial-name to all generations.
“Father” is not God’s name, it is his relationship with us. While I do not advocate calling God “mother”, God has revealed in scripture his character that has motherly qualities. Yet to us, he has decided to be known in relationship to us as a Father. God is not “Father” because he is male. God is neither male nor female. God is Spirit and there are no “body parts” in God that could make Him male. Rather, God is “Father” because this is the way that he choses to express his relationship to us.
The very nature of our triune God is revealed in a biblically ordered marriage.
Where does scripture say this? If the “triune God” is revealed in a biblically ordered marriage, who in the marriage relationship is the one corresponding to the Holy Spirit? Marriage is a one-flesh union of two equals. It is two people becoming united into one flesh. Marriage is not three persons united into one flesh.
5. Bible translations are at stake.
…my concern is that in the name of gender equality, the Bible is undermined and the very words of God end up being revised.
The English language has evolved so that words previously used in earlier generations do not have the same meaning today as they did in an earlier time. The Greek word for generic humans was translated into English as “man”. In the past it was understood that “man” meant human (meaning men or women), but today the word of God can be held back from being being crystal clear when the term “man” is seen in our day as meaning male only. If we use what is today a male term when a generic term is meant in the original Greek, would that be a good thing for the next generation? Is it wrong to “sharpen up” the English if the original intent of the Greek word is kept intact and made clearer? We should be far more concerned about keeping the clarity and faithfulness of the original languages than we should be concerned that the English word is changed.
6. The advance of the Gospel is at stake.
Ephesians 5 calls husbands and wives to relate to one another as a picture of Christ and the church. The picture involves the humble, sacrificial leadership of the husband…
Jesus is both God and man. As God he is Lord and Master and King. As the human Son, he is the husband of the church. This picture of Christ and the church is shown to be one of a unified body with Christ as the one who serves the church by giving her food. Jesus service is manifested through humble sacrifice to give himself for the church. The husband is to serve his wife in the same way, but scripture never once calls the husband the leader of the wife. Neither does the scriptures say that the husband is to have a sacrificial “leadership”. What complementarians have done is added a word to the inspired scriptures. Without the addition to the text, the husband is pictured as serving his wife and giving himself up for her. The husband is never pictured as being a leader but is pictured as being a servant.
and the joyful, intelligent submission to that leadership by the wife.
When our tradition adds “leadership” to sacrifice, we have in effect watered down and devalued God’s word in accordance with our tradition. We have also watered down the scriptures which say that Christians are to submit to one another. Submission is a “Christian” characteristic, not a feminine characteristic. The tradition that only the woman is to submit to the man takes away a key part of Christian maturity. We submit to one another, not only for the other person’s edification, but so that we may receive from that one the benefit of the other person’s gifts.
Romans 15:2 Each of us is to please his neighbor for his good, to his edification.
Should a husband submit to his wife’s gifts? Should a husband please his wife for her good and for her edification? Common sense says that we are heirs together in Christ (1 Peter 3:7) and as heirs together we can benefit from each other’s gifts. We cannot benefit from these gifts unless we submit to receive the gifts. Submission then is a Christian virtue, not a female virtue alone.
Deviation from biblical teaching on manhood and womanhood distorts the picture of Christ and the Church, and hinders the advance of the gospel.
Not only is there no biblical teaching on “manhood” and “womanhood”, but there is nothing in scripture that says that the gospel is hindered by the church who has women taking their place alongside the men or by the home that has a united authority of Father and Mother. What this teaching does is attach the gender issue to the essential issue of the Gospel and this is wrong.
Why is this issue so important? Because the message of the Gospel of Jesus Christ cannot be severed from the methods he has authorized to spread it. Homes and churches in which manhood and womanhood are prized advance the Gospel and the glory of God more accurately than any other kind of home or church.
Here is where the complementarian message has added itself into the gospel. Randy Stinson is essentially saying that the gospel preached by complementarians is “more accurate” than the gospel preached by egalitarians. In essence the complementarian view of “men only” leading in public teaching is part and parcel of the gospel message. One then cannot preach the full gospel that is necessary to save us unless one is also preaching concerning male-only leadership. No wonder so many complementarians are seeing egalitarians as heretics and as unsaved religious people who they must fight against. This is divisive and harmful to the body of Christ. In the last several years, the position of CBMW, of which Randy Stinson is president, has been increasingly antangonistic towards their egalitarian brothers and sisters in Christ. The position has been preached that egalitarians can be saved, but they must repent of being egalitarians.
In the past there have been groups who have attached their own personal preferences to the gospel. Some claimed that one could not be saved unless one spoke in tongues. Now we have a group who are claiming that belief in male leadership is necessary as part of the gospel. This is an ungodly addition to the gospel. CBMW is guilty of dividing sheep against sheep by adding conditions to the gospel of Jesus Christ. May there be repentance from this divisive work before it further harms the body of Christ.
Call me a pessimist (I’ve been called far worse), but I don’t think any of us are holding our breath till this happens on any large scale.
There is no possible Biblical wiggle room out of “not so among you”, or the Golden Rule, or “love does not demand its own way”. Those who deny these basic principles taught by Jesus and Paul are not fit to be leaders or teachers, and should be severely reprimanded and told to be silent until they learn the truth.
Oh, for the day when the proud are finally humbled!
I guess I must be an eternal optimist. I believe that if the leaders of the church are not willing to be humble and to stop beating their fellow slaves, that Jesus Himself will take away their “lamp stand” and in their place he will set up ones who know their place as godly servants and teachers who have true humility. True servants of Jesus lift up the sheep to mature them and grow them and they do not muzzle the sheep or hedge them in to stop them from using their gifts for the common good. I believe that God can and will raise up godly leaders and teachers who will be true shepherds who are willing to sacrifice themselves for the sheep.
Oh, thank you for this! I was more than willing to be quiet about gender differences until two things became glaringly obvious:
1. They indirectly plant the poisonous idea that we are not part of the real Body of Christ.
2. They are now promoting the eternal subordination of the Trinity and lessening Jesus Christ and His Sovereignty.
Now, in my studies and intereactions, I have found that Christian egals spend more time studying scripture deeply than all the comps I was with in a very hard comp mega church for 16 years. Especially women! I have never seen anything like it. They are not waiting to see what some famous pastor says, they are digging in and studying the Greek, etc. And they are wonderful about directing people to study on their own.
Lin,
This is also what has prompted me to take action and call for discipline. When they touch my Jesus by taking away his equal authority in the Godhead and when they dare to add complementarianism to the gospel they get my dander up. And when they call egalitarians to repent merely for being unashamed to follow Jesus in using our gifts for the common good of the body of Christ, they have my attention. I will stand up for my brothers and sisters in Christ who have been abused by those who apparently consider themselves a privileged class of Christians. This attitude must stop and the more people are outraged at this kind of treatment of the Trinity and the body of Christ the better. Modern Pharisees must not divide the body of Christ into two classes of Christians.
Hi Cheryl. Thanks for all your hard work.
I read Stimson’s linked article and then got to wondering what femininity is according to the CBMW. So I skimmed a few articles over there, including Elisabeth Elliot’s chapter in RBMW, and the impression I get is that they’ve confused Christianity with cultural conservatism. So it is not OK for men to have facial scrubs but it is OK for women to get their nails done. Well, I don’t like men to be effete either but this business about women and make-up reminds me of a story I read years ago. There was a Christian women’s conference on in Europe somewhere. The Danish women were scandalised by the American women (because they were all wearing make-up). The American women were scandalised by the Danish women (because they were all smoking cigars).
Elisabeth Elliot doesn’t seem to realise that feminists aren’t a homogeneous bunch. She credits them all with believing that the only differences between men and women are “a matter of mere biology” and being interested only in “questions of authority or power or competition or money”. Oddly, after describing the differences between male and female roles among the South American Indians among whom she worked - differences that she must, at some level, have realised are culturally conditioned because most of them are so foreign to Westerners - she then urges us not to, “swallow the feminist doctrine that femininity is a mere matter of cultural conditioning, of stereotypes perpetuated by tradition”. Here the word “mere” is the only thing that makes her statement passably true.
So yes, I agree with you that fear is probably what is underlying a lot of CBMW rhetoric; that and nostalgia for the good old days when women knew their place, divorce was relatively uncommon and most men (and, no doubt, plenty of women) agreed that a battered wife had probably been “asking” to be beaten.
Lately I’ve been wondering about people like David Koresh, Jim Jones and Wayne Bent. Does anyone know what these fellows’ position on women (and/or male authority) is or was? Did they preach the subordination of women? Is that part of how they managed to get so many of their female followers to have sex with them? I ask because my understanding is that sexual abuse seems to be much more common in families where the father is traditionally authoritarian and Scripture is used to justify a “me first—you submit” attitude toward women
You know, maybe these guys are so worried about being emasculated because they serve an emasculated Jesus?
I just put up a post on my blog, linking back to this post asking this question. I embedded an old TV commercial of Robert Conrad daring you to go ahead and try to knock off an Everready battery from his shoulder. Isn’t God’s will and God’s Word the same way? What God do they serve? I guess when you demote Jesus, this is what happens.
Why do I easily envision Cheryl Schatz with the Word — like an Everready battery on her shoulder (with all the theological punching power of Robert Conrad and Rocky Marciano), and I can’t dream of Stinson or any in his camp doing likewise? In the end of things, it seems that all they really have is hierarchy. Even the Word of God is subject to it. This is their God? He who speaks and the earth melts?
Cindy K,
I lifted this quote from your article:
Hey, that sounds like the Amish, who have been withdrawn for generations. And any fool can see how this approach “overcomes the world”, eh?
Good thoughts.
1. I think this is a heartfelt admission by Stinson how he feels and since published by CBMW how they feel.
2. While I would not be so strident, I do think his points (the authority of Scripture, the health of the home, the health of the church, our worship, Bible translations, and the advance of the gospel) are correct. It is just that I come to opposite conclusions that he does, egal conclusions. In each of these areas, if one is not mostly agreeing with egal conclusions, things will be diminished from what they could otherwise be in terms of Kingdom advance.
3. However, and this is important, people have a right to their own conclusions, this is soul liberty. We can discuss, explain our reasons to each other, and part ways. I am thankful for religious liberty in the West and hope the rest of the world will have it. I would not want to try to force my egal conclusions on anyone, rather, I would invite them to accept them.
4. I can be wrong, but God is faithful.
“and the impression I get is that they’ve confused Christianity with cultural conservatism. ”
Janice, you hit the nail on the head.
But it is changing. More and more are seeing the rotten fruit that came from putting Republicanism and a conservative lifestyle on the Throne instead of Jesus Christ. This ‘lifestyle’ includes the wife’s role and lots of hierarchy within the Body.
Elisabeth Elliot has always confused me on this issue.
She taught men on the mission field. Just not educated western men.
She also does not use her current husband’s last name. I have NO problem with this but many comps have a huge problem with women who do this, as I well know. She has a good reason not to use his name but it really does sort of negate a big part of her teachings on the comp lifestyle for women. I always get the feeling there are rules for rest of us that aren’t for them. I could give you a ton of examples of this.
Don, You are a perfect example of someone who can disagree without implying that they may not be saved because of their teaching. I pray they will do the same some day.
Here is my understanding on being saved.
1. Salvation is a personal experience between God and an individual, when they accept Jesus as Messiah. A church cannot grant salvation or take it away.
2. We are to confess our salvation. This helps us recognize others who are saved, so we can join a body of believers.
3. We are to accept another’s confession of salvation, except in the face of evidence to the contrary. Such evidence, for example, would be a repudiation of a previous confession of salvation or continuing unrepentant sin.
4. However, we are to be gracious.
Janice #5,
This is very well said and something that I also picked up on. A soft or gentle answer from a man is confused with the softness of his skin so that both are considered feminine. Yet Jesus had a gentle spirit and no one could accuse him of being feminine. I find their take on “masculine” and “feminine” to be confusing because they blend spiritual things together with cultural issues. Also the idea that egalitarians are only interested in power and authority is so far off the mark, I wonder if they have any ability to see outside their own view at all. Your comments and questions were very thought-provoking!
Cindy K,
Great post on your blog!
Well, it appears to me that Jesus wouldn’t pass CBMW’s required “manhood” rules. I am certain he would be way too soft for them and just as Jesus offended the Pharisees for breaking their man-made laws, he appears to not be tough enough for their standard “biblical manhood”. Consider this prophecy about Jesus:
I also loved your thoughts about Everready batteries. What a great analogy about the word of God!
Janice #5,
Welcome to our blog community! CBMW does rely on dogma and fear to maintain a power base. Dogma that very few will check out for themselves by doing their own critical thinking.
Fear, because it takes guts to go against the flow of centuries of patriarchal abuse. It’s much easier to just accept what your “betters” tell you the scriptures mean, rather than becoming a Berean and searching them for yourself to see if these things are so.
Wistful nostalgia for the “good old days” that never were, is part of the fabric of conservative Americana. In her book, “The Way We Never Were-American Families and the Nostalgia Trap”, author Stephanie Coontz dismantles American conservatism’s love affair with a glorious past that never existed.
Don,
I love your point form. It very much appeals to the logical way I think.
I agree with you that Stinson’s article was a heartfelt (and revealing) expression of how CBMW and Stinson feel about egalitarians.
I also think that the issues that Stinson brought up (the authority of Scripture, the health of the home, the health of the church, our worship, Bible translations, and the advance of the gospel) are important issues. But are hierarchists crippled by their view in these areas? I don’t think that this is necessarily so. As long as they don’t use their views to reject, belittle and condemn other believers, I personally think that a complementarian can love Jesus with all their heart and advance the gospel. Where they may run into problems is when they are confronted with what unbelievers see as a prejudice against women. If they are upfront by saying that the church must be prejudice against women bible teachers and women leaders because they believe the bible mandates this, they will see many unbelievers reject Jesus because of their stand. This is not a good thing. However I have seen that most comps will deny that women are held back in any way and unbelievers can see right through this inconsistency. In this way their evangelism will be hurt if they focus on the gender “role” prohibitions because educated men and women today see this as prejudice in its truest form.
Are complementarians crippled by their view of marriage and male leadership? Many marriages are just fine and complementarian husbands who really love and respect their wives, while they agree in principle with the comp position that the husband makes the final decision, personally they do not follow through with overriding their wife’s will and they work hard on coming to mutual decisions instead of holding the trump card over their wife.
Are complementarians crippled in their advance of the gospel? I do not think this has to be the case at all. Since gender issues are not part of the gospel, there should be no reason why a complementarian cannot evangelize and win the lost for Christ in an effective and winsome way. However they will certainly run into problems with discipleship if they push the complementarian way as the only Christian way.
Are complementarians crippled in their view of the church? I believe that many complementarians who are loving and kind to the body of Christ have found ways to acknowledge and use the gifts of women for the benefit of men. Some have no problem in allowing women to teach as long as women do not go behind the physical pulpit. Women have been allowed to teach by some who consider themselves complementarians if these women stand behind a music stand on the main floor. Many women will humble themselves to use a music stand as long as they are allowed to use their God-given gifts for the benefit of the body of Christ. Many complementarians have learned how to set aside man-made traditions (the pulpit is not found in scripture) and encourage both men and women to learn from each other. These kinds of churches and these kinds of pastors who do not separate themselves from egalitarians are ones who CBMW is especially afraid of.
It is the hard-core complementarian (hierarchist) who puts down Jesus in the Trinity, adds the complementarian view to the gospel and questions the salvation of other believers because of secondary issues of faith that must be strongly resisted in these areas. These are the complementarians who are the most vocal and who seek to divide the church by forcing egalitarians to either repent of the “sin” of the egalitarian view or be considered as an enemy of the church.
Don, I agree with you here. We are to be gracious and kind and speak the truth with love but we are not to force others to come to our conclusions through threats, coercion or other un-Christlike ways. We are also not to divide over this issue but are to treat our brothers and sisters in Christ with a deep respect and love as they too belong to Christ. If we must separate because they will not allow us to use our gifts without our being forced to be prejudiced against men, then we go in peace and pray for their eyes to be opened.
Lin #10,
I too see so much confusion in the complementarian camp when they allow some “special” complementarian women to do things that they actually speak against for all women. I am glad that Elisabeth gets to do all she does for men. I am glad that she has slipped through CBMW’s cracks and wish more women were able to slip through the cracks.
I do not see most non-egals as having a crippled faith, I see them as having a diminished faith; they are not all God wants them to be, but they can certainly advance the Kingdom.
Don, your answer shows that egalitarians are not questioning the salvation of complementarians and we are not the ones initiating a charge of not being true Christians.
I had an email from someone who said that it was egalitarians who were responsible for dividing the church and being divisive. I would like to see the evidence of this. I have experienced the exact opposite. In fact it is egalitarians, in my experience, who are the ones who are working on peace making and reconciliation. If there are complementarians out there who have been peace makers and who have worked to keep the peace, I give them much credit. I just haven’t met them yet.
“I had an email from someone who said that it was egalitarians who were responsible for dividing the church and being divisive”
This is what they are being taught. There is a lot of repeating what has been taught instead of really thinking it through. The idea is that even studying this issue with an open mind is divisive and will divide the church. In practice, most egals who attend comp churches just work where they can. If they cannot, they leave. How is that divisive?
It is divisive to say that Christian egal teaching is allowing Satan into the church. This was said at the same conference where Bruce Ware taught about unsubmissive wives triggering abuse from husbands.
There is also a lot of reptitition of the teaching that this issue leads to homosexuality being accepted into the church and in ministry positions. This is simply illogical. Being a woman who wants to use the gifts the Holy Spirit gives for the edification of the church is not a sin. Homosexuality is a sin and is clearly taught as a sin in scripture. The other reason it is illogical is because homosexuality has been rampant in Patriarchal cultures throughout history and still is. A friend of mine, a missionary in Afghanistan, was astonished at how prevalent homosexuality was there, even under the Taliban! It is just hidden better.
We must be prepared for lots of false accusations because they do not want to engage actual content of scripture. And they do not want their followers to see this as a secondary doctrine and that we should have charity toward others who disagree.
One of the many ways one can feed one’s pride is to make a fuss about whatever one is working on. I am working on this big and important project, so I must be big and important. If people do not listen to me-me-me things will get much worse, etc. We need to be careful to assess things correctly and not inflate them (or deflate them) just because we are working on them.
Also, we need to be very careful in disfellowshipping someone. At the very least, we need to get with them and ask them how they understand the verses that seem to us to be relevant to a concern we might have. If it is one of the puzzling verses, we need to be careful as one can be faithful yet not agree with us.
Lin,
I agree with you wholeheartedly. In my opinion these kinds of words are “thought stopping” words meant to produce fear in any kind of communication with egalitarians. There are so many who are willing to say that CBMW has all the answers and they trust their word and are unwilling to look at the issues themselves in order to engage an egalitarian. We are broad brushed into the enemy’s corner without so much as a second thought. I find this very sad because of the extreme divisiveness.
Don,
I do not believe Christians should “disfellowship” each other over secondary issues of faith. Differences of opinions are opportunities to:
1. Understand the other person’s viewpoint
2. Sharpen our own viewpoint and either make adjustments to our view or solidify our view by measuring it against the challenge of the other person.
3. Love and appreciate one another in spite of our differences and thus we have an opportunity to demonstrate patience in a mature way.
Calling other Christians degrading names and attacking their character because of their beliefs on secondary issues of faith is never a good thing. If we find ourselves doing these things, we should do a self examination to see what our own heart motive is.
Recently I heard that it is said real men are not primarily gentle. I strongly disagree with that. Mature Christianity is expressed in gentleness because this is part of the “fruit” (singular) of the Spirit.
Those who wish to separate male and female by spiritual characteristics appear to make “kindness” and “gentleness” as female fruit while “courage” is said to be a mature male trait. Yet Paul shows us through the Holy Spirit’s inspiration that there is one “fruit” of the Spirit and we are all to have these characteristics that come as fruit from the Holy Spirit no matter what our gender. I also believe that those who go through the troubles and trials of this life and who allow the “fruit” of the Spirit to grow in their lives are most certainly all “courageous”.
My desire is that I will not be afraid to courageously step out in faith even if no one goes with me, yet always working hard to be gentle and compassionate to those who have not yet seen the things that have been made so clear to me. I may have a long way to go, but I am willing to stay the course and not give up.
Cheryl #22,
The day has indeed arrived when egalitarianism is no longer just a secondary issue in the church universal. Over at Denny Burk’s blog, he has posed the question: Is Egalitarianism a Heresy? (Mon 11 Aug 2008). It’s hard not to conclude that the push is on to make one’s gender stance a litmus test for orthodoxy.
So “courage” is said to be a mature male trait huh? Corrie ten Boom had more courage in her little finger than several macho-men combined. I submit that the most vocal proponents of “Biblical manhood” over at CBMW would have folded after 90 days in a Nazi concentration camp.
Greg,
I can’t say that I am shocked from reading through the Denny Burk’s blog post. This is where CBMW has decided to take the debate in recent years and it is removing their credibility with those who sit on the fence. How can an organization declare other evangelical Christians as heretics and liars over this secondary issue in the body of Christ? When we are being mistreated by the body, we are suffering. The bible says that when one part of the body is suffering, the whole body suffers. I believe that Jesus cares about this suffering and he will do something because it is HIS body.
How can anyone read this kind of abuse and see egalitarians as the ones who are dividing the body instead of laying the blame with the ones who call Christians as heretics and liars? Has anyone read anything like this from the egalitarian camp? I have never seen egalitarians say that complementarians are heretics and liars and Satan’s pawns. Has anyone out there seen this kind of vitriol coming from the egalitarian camp? It is shameful and I believe it is the end result of CBMW’s hierarchical teaching. I also believe that God is allowing these men to go this far so that the true “fruit” will be seen. People’s eyes are being opened and what we are saying about the divisive nature of the hierarchical teaching is being vindicated by the attitude shown by complementarians such as Denny Burk and his blog article that you pointed us to. http://www.dennyburk.com/?p=2288
Guess who the Don was at Touchstone blog, as mentioned in the comments under this Burk blog?
Any guesses?
Let me guess. It is our favorite Don from this blog
Maybe what we’re seeing now is God “hardening hearts”. When people keep pushing Him away He eventually gives them a boost in the direction they want to go.
Don, I cannot find the comments from the link at Burke’s blog. Do you have a link for them?
Paula,
Yes, I believe this is God hardening their hearts.
Lin,
The link is here.
Well, I just read the comments. My heart is bleeding.
Don, Thank you for your constancy and not responding in kind to the name calling and attacks. You did not even get angry and leave! Your demeanor in the midst of all that was a blessing to me. (Even if I did not understand all the Jewish sects stuff :o)
It was vicious. The arrogance and hatred coming from, not only the author, but the commenters there makes me fear for what is coming for the church and those who believe in mutual submission for all believers and those of us who want to be able to proclaim the Word of God to anyone regardless of gender.
All I can see anymore, coming from this position, are people who want power and authority over others. What a long way we are from Jesus washing the feet of His disciples.
Vicious is probably an understatement concerning the attitude from the comments on that blog article that I linked to. I just finished reading all of the comments myself now. Don kept his cool and acted in a Christ-like manner. The ones who call themselves complementarians showed their attitude as anything but Christ-like. This is the separation that was meant to come. They are separating from us but anyone who loves Jesus and loves the brethren can see the hateful attitude coming from that “community”.
While they are the ones separating from us by their vicious attacks and name calling, Jesus is the one who uses this division to show where the fruits of the Spirit really are. Those who have eyes to see will see. Anyone who can attack a brother in Christ over a secondary issue of faith in the way that they did to Don shows that they do not have the love for the whole body of Christ. Jesus said that they will know us by our love. That means that we can alsoidentify those who do not love. Remember all those who are reading these comments, that this is not about the essentials but about a secondary issue of faith. Anyone reading the comments on that blog who do not blush with shame towards the brothers who were doing the name-calling, in my opinion needs to repent and go back to their first love. Those who LOVE Jesus will LOVE their brothers. It isn’t an option but a must. When one names the name of Christ but acts in this repulsive manner they are proving that they do not have the love of God in their life. I fear for them because this is the time that the church is being judged. Those who resist the Holy Spirit’s work in discipline because of their lack of love may well find themselves outside the door. All those who do not have love and who do not LOVE the truth will fall for the lie. This is God’s work in judging the church, but it is so painful to watch the separation happening. Very, very painful.
On the various Jewish sects in the 2nd temple Judaism(s), we know about the Sadducees and Pharisees and Essenes and Zealots and Herodians and the Way. The Pharisees had 2 main schools, Shammai and Hillel, their debates are recorded in the Mishnah. The school of Hillel evolved into orthodox rabbic Judaism after the temple was destroyed, all the rest were wiped out by 100 except the Way evolved into Christianity once the gentiles came in.
On love, this is the MAIN sign of a believer, esp. love of the brethren. See 1 Cor 13 and elsewhere. God dealt with me when I thought that being right was more important than love.
This 1985 paper by Harold Bussell (which I found through the link at Cindy’s post on evangelical Christians’ vulnerability to cults states,
I’m Australian. When I was a kid we used to say that whatever the Yanks are doing we’ll be doing in 20 years’ time. I think we’ve caught up more than I’d like.
Until March this year I thought the only churchly male vs. female issue here was whether women should be ordained but at a meeting planning activities with a group of theology students who were going to visit one of the men present said he was feeling hesitant about allowing female students to speak at the local university. When I asked why he cited 1 Timothy 2:12 which surprised and disturbed me. If he’d said he was hesitant about the women speaking at a church service I might have let it slide but to get twitchy about women speaking during an outreach at a secular university struck me as decidedly peculiar.
Since then I’ve googled far and wide, discovered the complementarian/egalitarian divide and learned that in the USA this verse has been used to justify the dismissal of at least two women from church run organisations. In one case it appears possible that the verse was used as a strategem to get rid of a woman who had a history of causing problems. In the other case it appears that the verse was used truly ideologically, i.e., the authorities at that institution really believe that no woman, no matter how well qualified in her subject, should teach any man. My understanding is that because both women were working for church run organisations they have no recourse under US law.
What I see is a new kind of opposition identity being formed. Its roots are in (sexual) politics. It reminds me of the fascination with end times stuff that was going on 20 odd years ago, before the USSR fell apart, when people were planning to go bush and grow their own food so they could survive the Tribulation without using a Bankcard. The ones I knew were so obsessed that they seemed to have no energy left for growing in Christ and helping to fulfil the Great Commission.
So now lots of people are thinking everything will be all right if we can just get women to believe (or at least act as though they believe) that helping (ezer) their husband means doing, in all circumstances, whatever their husband wants them to do. What complete rot! What better recipe could you have for producing a bunch of self-absorbed, self-delighting, authoritarian bullies hardly distinguishable from Wahabi Muslims? That they’re also saying that people who think differently are heretics is just another sign that sections of the complementarian crowd are on the road to being just another weirdo cult.
Soon I hope to get the hang of putting a line of space between paragraphs with HTML.
Sorry.
Yes, it’s a cult.
And this scripture is still true:
It is the spirits we are to test (1 John 4:1), and the teachings we are to examine (Acts 17:11, (2 John 1:10). The male supremacists are showing no concern for our spirit and cannot refute our teachings. “But Diotrephes, who loves to be first, will have nothing to do with us.” (3 John 1:9)
[Hmmm, in searching for scriptures to describe them, wonder why the verses mostly come from John, "the beloved disciple"?]
I went and read some more. Then I blogged. Then I mourned the final death blow the male supremacists have imposed upon the Body.
#35:
Preach it, Paula!
Hey, did I just learn from a woman?
Oh, nooooooooooo!
Don,
Do I sense some type of repentance?
BTW my sisters are here for a visit and will leave on Thursday morning as we leave to go down to Idaho to have a Matthew 18 meeting with Matt Slick. If I am not on line very often the next week, this is why.
Daz right, Cindy K! Gotta preach while it’s still legal.
Don: You can always say you didn’t learn anything new, so you’re off the hook. (And aren’t men always saying, “Ha! I already knew that!” anyway?)
Cheryl: I’ll bet you’ll be SO happy when that meeting is over! Regardless of outcome, you will have done the right thing and gone the extra mile.
On a previous thread, I referred to an audio download from Walter Martin that I had listened to that day:
http://www.spiritwatch.org/cultrise79.ram
I’m amazed at how much of what he said stuck with me. The sermon centers around Matt 24 and defines what a cult is, and it was just a crystal, crystal clear message. He applied Scripture to very contemporary issues in a manner I so rarely hear anymore. The matter of intramural debate that he used as an example (in ‘79) was that of eschatology, and I wonder what he would have to day about this issue and the implications of all the peripherals (such as the Trinity issue)?
Therein, he says that we had better get back to teaching the essentials of the faith and get away from all of this carrying on over the non-essential stuff, otherwise we would not have the love for one another in the Body and we would not be able to evangelize the lost. I could not agree more with him.
I guess this is why this whole gender thing irritates me so much — because it has been interwoven into essentials of the faith, as Lin aptly notes. The preaching of Jesus Christ and the Cross has become much more about dresses and submission. That is not the preaching of the Cross.
Someone wrote to me last night about how grieved they were over how Don was treated on that treadstone thread or whatever it was — and I just again heard Walter Martin quoting 2nd Corinthians 11:3 ~ “But I fear, lest by any means, as the serpent beguiled Eve through his subtilty, so your minds should be corrupted from the simplicity that is in Christ.“ (Do you think it does apply to this issue???? It almost makes me wonder if God was not looking right at us from his timeless perspective, moving Paul’s heart and mind to choose these very words.)
Now that I don’t even have to pull out my Majority Text and my Lexicon anymore, I went to Zhubert.com and looked up 2 Cor 11. I was surprised that in addition to the word for “simple, singular and frank,” I looked and saw the “kai” (and). It is not only just the simplicity of that is in Christ. It says “and the cleanliness, purity and chastity” that is in Christ. It’s straight and simple Greek there also, not always the case with the complex language of Paul.
(BTW, that was another side point of ignorance that was put to Don over there in that blog when someone clearly demonstrated that they had far less training in Greek than Don did. Paul’s Greek is complex and as complex as James’ language. Anyone who has taken upon the task of learning Greek learns very quickly that John is very comfortable conversation and that Paul and James are like advanced college level, both in language and in content. That particular critic demonstrated his own ignorance in that particular comment. But in 2 Cor 11:3, it’s straight and simple.)
God bless anyone who chooses to follow a particular course. God bless those who eat meat sacrificed to idols and those that don’t. Wear a head covering or don’t wear one and be blessed and rejoice. But whatever my conviction and the Holy Spirit’s leaning on my own heart or one someone else’s, we are all called to liberty and love. And we all get it wrong and we all mature as we grow, but the overriding goal and motive should be love for one another in Christ. There was none of that on that blog thread.
I felt sick when I saw that someone told Don to be gracious as he was about to be eviscerated (gutted). Every source was challenged (back to the well-documented paterfamilias and Roman secular law stuff again), his epistemology was challenged (which I found to be quite shocking), and in the end was called names — one of which I have not heard used seriously since I was in high school 25 years ago. I felt better having read all the comments because Don was not eviscerated in any sense. They didn’t have the goods to do it, so it degenerated into name calling. Don didn’t seem upset at all, even in pointing out the name calling.
Bussell’s article got it right — they want uniformity through opposition (an article written in ‘85?). They certainly do not appear to want unity through love. Christ’s love in us, freely shown to one another in liberty, is the ONLY way that it will happen. Anything else, if it is not “cultic” or “thought stopping” to begin with will eventually end up becoming so. And that is not unity but is rather static totalism and death to liberty.
It breaks my heart to consider what will happen to the church. The whole body suffers — as if we have some raging infection. At least that is my optimism talking, as the alternate means that we are not of the same body. Only Jesus knows our hearts and souls. Why are so many professing Christians obsessed with this? Has it always been this way and I’ve been unaware? Or is it worse and more widespread?
It is good to remember that Stinson is one of the original group that coined the term ‘complementarian’ and started CBMW. He has a vested interest in his pocketbook as to what he says, promotes and writes on the CBMW Blog. He is going to toe the party line, and since he created the party line, he knows it well. And we might also remember that he had to be pretty convinced within his own thinking that he was correct in his Biblical doctrines regarding men and women in order to start such a really rather radical group. Such a person likely will not even give a 10 second consideration to an opposing view.
And BTW I was absolutely floored that Mere Christianity allowed such horrific slanderous words to remain on their comments. Its one thing for forums like CARM or CW (although equally wrong) but for a much more public community representing a Christian magazine, to be so blatantly unChristian in their dialogue is putting out a really bad example for the public view.
If you did not already know, it is getting nasty out there for egals, so be as wise as serpents and as innocent as doves. Mat 10:16
… or just kick some aner!
Kick some aner? ROFLOL!
Don,
I heard NOTHING of this gender business until the mid-nineties. (I grew up egal and dropped back to “no women pastors or elders” to be conservative.) I never had one clue that any Christian even took this stuff all that seriously. Since then, I’ve only seen it increase, largely through my peer group and then into para-church organizations that never dreamed would ever take such a position. People have always been legalistic about dress, and there are examples like Elizabeth Elliot (and George Elliot, for that matter) who were role models outside of my own denomination. There have been women missionaries, etc.
That’s another reason why I don’t understand Stinson in particular, professing that this is all a late 20th Century perversion, or even one of Enlightenment thought (such as was suggested back on that Mere Christianity thread). Why was I taught what is essentially now considered “egal” by both old men and women (Baptist, Lutheran, Catholic and Pentecostal) who were in their ’80s (back in the ’70s), teaching me what they had learned? If these are all modern teachings resulting from late 20th century feminism and perhaps from women’s suffrage, who corrupted these men and women in their Victorian/Edwardian days and their Victorian parents before them? Stinson uses some odd mathmatics and history.
“I felt better having read all the comments because Don was not eviscerated in any sense. They didn’t have the goods to do it, so it degenerated into name calling. Don didn’t seem upset at all, even in pointing out the name calling. felt better having read all the comments because Don was not eviscerated in any sense. They didn’t have the goods to do it, so it degenerated into name calling. Don didn’t seem upset at all, even in pointing out the name calling.”
There is another aspect to this that really concerns me. I know blog comments are not the best place to do Matthew 18 but when Don was called names and cussed at, he used the Matthew 18 process and he was right in doing so. Anyone else notice the reaction? They did not think the commenters who did such things were at fault. And these are folks who are presenting themselves as biblically educated.
This concerns me because of the big push for church discipline right now in the reformed movement. Is that what it will look like? Because for those who considered themselves theologically correct, they sure did not recognize basic sin.
Cindy, What I am seeing was never taught in the SBC when I was a kid. My mom taught men all the time in an inner city church and no one thought a thing about it. So did my grandmother back in the early 1900’s. She was college educated (Latin, Greek) where many in her rural home (men included) were not so she taught many bible studies at church and in her home.
It was a given they were not pastors but they did teach men and it was no big deal.
I think women had more opportunities to share their spiritual gifts back when society and the church thought they were ‘unequal’.
The non-egal arguments used by CBMW and co. are new and becoming strident. They are basically a reaction against the flow of freedom that they noticed. I think the stridency is because IF they are wrong, then they would need to repent. We saw the same reaction with the US slaveholders in 1850s.
Don,
The fight includes not giving an inch. It appears that their rationale is that if they give an inch they have lost the war. This is what is at the heart of what I am facing right now. He is between a rock and a hard place. Will he do the Christian thing or not? That remains to be seen. Ego and tradition are a difficult thing to let go of even if one sees that they have blown it. Giving an inch appears to be admitting defeat.
Stinson wrote “…my concern is that in the name of gender equality, the Bible is undermined and the very words of God end up being revised.”
This statement is incoherent and therefore wrong. There is an assumption that the words of God are in English, so when a translator makes a different choice than Stinson would make, that translator is “revising” the Bible. This is not the way it works, folks! In fact, besides being fundamentally wrong, it is very arrogant for Stinson to make this claim.
The words of God in Scripture are in Hebrew, Aramaic and Koine Greek. Most agree that the original manuscripts were inspired, what best represents those is a discussion, but there are methods to do our best to reconstruct those original manuscripts.
How best to translate text in one language to another is an art, not a science, which is why machine translation is not very good at it. There are disagreements about how some verses should be translated, this is a far cry from “revising” Scripture. Besides that, English itself evolves, who speaks KJV English today except in church, but it was the common tongue back then.