Excellent observations!  Thanks for posting them.

Sometimes, people confuse her position with that of the local civil judges. But they were never named in Scriptures, just referred to. It was The Judge of the Nation that was chosen by God and named in Scripture, that assisted the civil judges in cases too difficult for them.

As R. Groothuis points out, there are NO exceptions in God’s choices; God does not make a rule and then make an exception. 

Judges 2:16  Then the LORD raised up judges who delivered them from the hands of those who plundered them.

The purpose was not to show that there were no male leaders.  This is foreign to the text.  In fact this is the one verse that was the final straw for my Pastor that caused him to accept women in ministry.  He reasoned that if God was the only who installed the Judges per Judges 2:16 and he chose to install Deborah, then Deborah was a valid Judge to deliver Israel just as were all the other God-ordained Judges. 

The Treasury of Scripture Knowledge says this about the judges:

The shophetim were not judges in the usual sense of the term; but were heads or chiefs of the Israelites, raised up on extraordinary occasions, who directed and ruled the nation with sovereign power, administered justice, made peace or war, and led the armies over whom they presided.

Deborah did indeed rule with sovereign power as God raised her up for that purpose.  To state a purpose of Deborah that is not stated in scripture (that she was only there to put men to shame since every man was unavailable), we do a great disservice to the scriptures by adding to the scriptures. 

God always has reserved men for himself.  Elijah thought he was alone but there were 7,000 others that the Lord reserved for himself (Romans 11:3, 4).  To say that there was not even one man in Israel that was godly, is to say that God could not raise up one of the men that he had reserved for himself.  That makes God much less Sovereign that he truly is.  My Pastor has stated that the one who God raises up, is who we are to accept.  If God can choose a woman, then we are not to reject God’s choice.  Who are we to tell God what he can and cannot do?

In other words, they see her as an exceptional case and work to limit the implications within their worldview.

The problem is that we have come to see the value of women and it would be difficult if not impossible to go back to a place where women’s opinion was not valued even enough to allow them to vote.  IF CBMW’s position was consistent, it wouldn’t take so much work to try to explain how a woman can be a VP but cannot be a bible study leader in her own home.  This is beyond inconsistent.  It is irrational.  If God cannot speak through a woman to teach the truth from scripture, then how could he speak through a woman VP or a woman president?  If God doesn’t speak through women, then why on earth would we allow them to teach other women and children?  Let’s just do away with women teachers all together and have only men.  This is the consistent position.

But this position is not consistent from a creation order standpoint because of Deborah and others since Israel was a Theocracy. Civil and spiritual were not separated in Israel. So they really are not being consistent when they use creation order.

It is from FOTF.  I have heard of it but many details are lacking.

Note that I do not agree with this argument, as I do not accept the supposed creation order.  But this is what I see CBMW as saying.